Tuesday, 21 February 2017

Kerry and Robin's Humanist Wedding at Marine Villa, Archerfield House

Kerry and Robin's wedding was one of the highlights of my summer, and her excuse for not getting in touch before now is the highlight of my spring: she's radiantly pregnant, and full of joy looking forward to her next big event!



Anyone who reads my blog will know that 'the homework'is absolutely central to my approach, and Robin and Kerry's story tells you why far better than I can, so over to them...



Doing the 'homework' you set for us was definitely one of the highlights of the process. It was such a great way to remind ourselves of what we love about each other and why we decided to get married in the first place (amidst all the planning I'm sure it's easy for couples to get carried away with the material choices they have to make and lose sight of what's really important!) 




The evening we shared our 'findings' was one of the best and most emotional nights we've ever experienced as a couple, so thank you for giving us that. We jokingly refer to it as 'The Night of Tears.'





The day itself was just a blast. Beforehand we were a little anxious about all these different people from different times in our life being in the same place at the same time, but realised this will probably never happen again, so decided to embrace it! Both our mornings were surprisingly relaxing - Robin played golf with the guys while I was in hair and make up with my mum and the bridesmaids, and we were all having such a laugh that 3pm arrived so quickly! 




I wasn't nervous about walking down the aisle - just more excited to see Robin waiting at the end for me - but as soon as I turned into the marquee with my dad and saw him (combined with the Cairn String Quartet playing Vladimir Martynov's 'The Beatitudes' from my favourite film The Great Beauty), all composure was gone! The happy tears took over yet again. 



It was such a pleasure hearing you deliver the ceremony we had taken time to create, and we've since talked about how surreal yet enjoyable it was having someone narrate the story of us! 




I'm sure you'll remember I found it hard to get through the vows - the words we'd written together were so meaningful and heartfelt that it was a struggle to say them out loud without going to pieces! 



Nearly every single one of our guests commented on how lovely and personal the ceremony was, and how they felt like they knew us better as a couple afterwards. 



I also think the amazing setting, my friend Natasha's performance of 'O Mio Babbino Caro', Robin's cousin Julie's reading of 'Quiet Song in Time of Chaos', everyone singing a song by The Beach Boys, and our four-legged ring bearer definitely opened a few of our guests' minds (particularly those who had only ever been to church weddings and hadn't ever come across Humanism before). 




The nature of the ceremony, being by the sea, our David Bowie themed table plan, the fantastic speeches, and our surprise wedding dance (a slow rhumba to Glen Campbell's 'Wichita Lineman' which morphed into a disco routine to Olivia Newton John's 'Xanadu') totally encapsulated Robin and I as a couple. The day just felt so 'us', which was fantastic. We just wish every day could be like September 3rd, 2016!   


  
Ahh, think I'm going to need to get the wedding album out now 😃 Hope all is well with you, Tim! 

Love,Kerry and Robin xxx


Well that wedding album is bound to include most if not all of the shots you can see here, on the Blue Sky blog of the day

And there is a really lovely trailer, shot by my friends Yvonne and Steve of Cherry Tree Films here: I think you'll agree, it captures the mood perfectly.



Thank you Robin and Kerry - and I can't wait to hear about the next chapter in your lives!

Friday, 3 February 2017

Carrie and Ross's Humanist wedding at The Swanston Brasserie

Carrie and Ross got married on one of those July days that feel like November: it was absolutely chucking it down as Carrie and her bridesmaids arrived at Swanston, but we didn't let it dampen our spirits one bit!


Carrie had three gorgeous bridesmaids, Alison, Emma and Angela, and Ross had a matching set of groomsmen: Ryan, Greg and Ross Two! This was almost a story of playground sweethearts. Ross had the Kangol jacket, Carrie had the blue mascara, but they didn't click until they met up at a friend's 18th birthday when they exchanged a quick kiss and their phone numbers.


Carrie was soon forced to admit that she 'quite liked' Ross, even though his car was a Corsa...


They had a long engagement by today's standards: seven years went by, during which they moved house far too often, got two crazy labradors and realised that they'd grown so close that they often finished each others... sandwiches.


Before they exchanged their own very personal vows, I asked the guests to make a 'group vow' - a promise to Ross and Carrie that they would support them in their marriage. The guests also promised to tell them that they're being eejits if they ever forget their promises and start to moan about each other!


In another original twist, they asked several of their friends to ask them questions to which they could reply, 'I do'.


Among other things, Ross promised to stop making up his own lyrics to songs, as he'd done to Adele's 'Chasing Penguins'... I can't hear that song now without thinking of it


Then and only then did they speak their vows, exchange rings, and make their legal declaration.


By that point, there wasn't a dry eye in the house!





Alison and Ryan joined us as we signed The Marriage Schedule


And then all the guests joined me in an old Celtic Blessing before they went on their way.


Carrie and Ross sent me a lovely email along with these photographs by Joanna of Orange Lemur

Thanks again for marrying us - you really did help to make the day feel special.   Loads of our guests had commented they had not been to a humanist wedding before and really enjoyed it and thought you were brilliant - so hopefully you get asked to do a few weddings as a result!  

Your ideas on what to include in the ceremony definitely made it feel so personal and special - a lot of guests really liked learning about our story and it seemed to get a good few laughs (luckily!) Also the idea of our friends asking us questions was brilliant - the guests liked this as they had never seen anything like that before.

You really helped to settle me and Ross' nerves on the big day.  I was so glad to see you when I arrived that soggy evening at Swanston!  Also Ross was really impressed with how you kept him calm and took control on the day.  Guests also commented on how they liked being able to see us during the ceremony and we also liked being able to see our own family and friends during it, rather than having our backs to them.  Your joke before the ceremony went down well and apparently had so many guests fooled into looking under their chairs!  

It is clear you love your job and you are brilliant at what you do!  We won't think twice about recommending your services. Thanks again! Lots of love,

Carrie & Ross Finn x

Mr and Mrs. Finn, it was an absolute joy! Thank you for sharing your story and these photos with us, and Carrie don't forget that sometimes you have let Ross think he can go faster than you on his bike! 


Thursday, 2 February 2017

Carley and Fraser's Humanist Wedding at Kirknewton Stables


My reputation depends entirely on word of mouth, and there are two groups of people whose good word I particularly treasure: wedding planners and photographers.

It's obvious really: they see lots and lots and lots of registrars, ministers, priests and celebrants, so if they like me, I know I must be doing something right!


Carley Buick is a talented hard working designer and photographer: I've worked with her a lot, both as a second shooter for Julie Tinton and Marc Millar, but increasingly in her own right, so when I heard that she wanted me to marry her, I was dead chuffed. 


That was back in November last year. Now, returned from a honeymoon in Venice, I thought it would be a good time to get her and Fraser to do a little Q and A


Why did you choose Kirknewton Stables?


We wanted somewhere not too far from Edinburgh where we could do our own thing - decor, food and drink wise and also have the whole day there as we didn’t want to be moving around between venues... theres not many places that tick all those boxes!



 Kirknewton is a gorgeous blank canvas. I first saw it about 10 years ago when I worked there with Mackenzie's catering and loved it then and had always kept it in mind for my own wedding. Fraser and I went to see it shortly after we got engaged and luckily he loved it too!


Why did you choose a humanist wedding?

I have never been religious so for me it felt wrong to have a religious ceremony, and I always felt that registrar services were quite impersonal and mostly about the legalities! 

It’s through being a photographer that I first was introduced to humanist ceremonies and I alway love the ethos behind them and of humanism in general, it really sums up how I feel. 

The ceremonies are so personal to the couple and always invoke a lot of smiles and laughter! I also think its lovely how your ceremonies always acknowledge those who are religious and offers them a moment for silent prayer - it's lovely to allow everyone to enjoy the ceremony in their own way. 

Fraser didn’t have much experience of humanist ceremonies, but he looked into it and agreed it seemed the perfect way for us to get married.  He loved how personal the services are, and how involved we would be in writing it.

You both looked amazing! Where did you find your outfits?



 Carley: Dress was from Rachel Scott Couture with the gold top made by my clever Mum. 




 Fraser: Custom made suit from Kinloch Anderson, tie made by Carley's clever Mum!

Given that you are a photographer, was it tough deciding who would shoot your wedding?




Not at all! I'm so lucky that I’ve worked along side Julie and Marc for a few years now and they have become good friends as well as being amazing photographers! I really couldn’t have thought of anyone else photograph our day and I loved that they both have such different styles and captured it in their own way.


The same goes for Barry Best, who did our video and who I met though working alongside at other weddings too. I thought it might have been weird being on the other side of the camera but Fraser and I actually really enjoyed going away with them for our pictures as we all just had a bit of a laugh in the process! 



It was great fun and the photos and video all turned out stunning, we are so delighted with them.

 How did your guests feel about the ceremony?



So may people commented on how they loved the ceremony, how it was personal to us, wasn’t too short or too long and told our story… and was so well told by you too! 

There were two guests at Carley and Fraser's wedding that I know really well because they were both at my own wedding a couple of years ago. One of them was my stepdaughter, Claire, and the other was her boyfriend Craig, so I thought I'd ask them what they thought about it. 

Craig said "I've been to lots of humanist weddings over the last couple of years, but Fraser &Carley's was the best because it seemed fully personalised. You didn't stand and read from a book or an iPad. It felt like you were part of the celebration rather than an outsider stepping in for the day."

And Claire said, "Everything was sincere, the crowd laughed and the ceremony was all about Carley and Fraser and their friends and family. Not just about their story but about all their their personal and light-hearted quirks like Fraser's new TV (which he got!)"

As a totally professional and invariably punctual photographer, tell me how you felt when you realised you were going to be late for your own wedding…


This still upsets me! It’s one of my biggest regrets of the day. I started to get really anxious about an hour and bit before we had to leave and I realised my makeup hadn’t been started yet, I think maybe because I knew the girls I had been too polite about hurrying up and I’m not entirely sure why we seemed to run over so much! 




So when my parents arrived at 12.15 I was nowhere near ready and the process of getting my dress and all the finishing details on was rushed and stressful! I really wish we had time to all stand and have a glass of bubbles together and just enjoy a moment before leaving but that went right out the window! All I can remember is running round in my dress stressed because I couldn’t find my house keys!




It also meant the trip in the van to the ceremony with my dad which I was so looking forward to was’t as enjoyable as I was just worrying about being late! My Dad (who’s usually very calm!) was also getting anxious which in turn made me feel worse! Doing what I do I know how important it is to be on time and I was gutted that I wasn’t.


 I was SO thankful the guitar player was late and only got there a minute before me also!

As I said to Carley, it really didn't matter to me, but the lesson for any bride to be is obvious: build in more prep time, and stay chilled!

What’s your one truly unforgettable memory of the day?

Carley: I’m not sure I can pick just one, there’s so many and yet it’s all such a blur at the same time! I’ll always remember saying my vows and looking right at Fraser. 


I loved the time we had just the two of us getting our photos taken too, it was a little slice of time away from all the madness!



Fraser said he has lots of different memories of all the different parts of the day… seeing all his family i the morning at The Raeburn, me coming up the aisle, getting our pictures taken in the grounds of Kirknewton and hearing the speeches during dinner are all his key moments.



Finally, do you have any advice for other couples getting married?


Don’t do things because you think :that's the way it should be done" or because other people expect you to.


 Do it your way and enjoy the process! Fraser says"enjoy your engagement - and the planning!"


I absolutely LOVED conducting Fraser and Carley's wedding, and you can see from these great photos from Marc Millar and Julie Tinton that they loved it too. 


I'm sure that Carley and I will work together again soon, but it was lovely to see her looking so beautiful on the other side of the footlights for once!

So, thanks again you two, and of course thanks to those top shooters, Julie Tinton and Marc Millar for their great pics!

Jenni and Rich's Humanist Wedding at Edinburgh Zoo



Some weddings were just meant to happen. How could a Birrell meet a Burrell and not fall in love? 


Jenni and Rich wrote a wonderful ceremony. It was short on story but big on meaning. As they said, "We have put a lot of thought into what marriage means to thus and we've had many a long evening discussing why we have chosen to marry each other.The primary reason is teamwork!"

When they came to see me for the rehearsal, Jenni was really nervous about speaking her vows directly to Rich. And no wonder - that is the most challenging of the many different ways you can do this (and most people don't).  But Jenni was determined to crack it, so  we spent a fair bit of time that afternoon just getting her to...










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It worked. The Birrell Burrell Wedding was great fun and very moving. Here's what they said when they sent me these great photographs.

"We've been enjoying reliving the day, seeing things we may have missed, shed many a tear over the emotion of the day and laughed at the funny moments. 



We would just like to say thank you. Thank you for all you did for us on our wedding day, and the build up to it. The support and guidance you provided was invaluable, and to have you there on the day was a great comfort to us. The ceremony was truly magical, and even though we wrote it, it couldn't have happened the way it did without you. To have such a kind, supportive and professional celebrant really made our day, and we cannot express just how grateful we are. 




I must say thank you especially for helping me get through the wobbly moment with the vows in the rehearsal. Taking on board what happened and your advice meant reading them on the day was much easier and that it was ok to "take my time".




We wish you all the best, and thank you so much for marrying us. Jenni & Rich Burrell 

It was an honour, Jenni and Rich: thank you for asking me in the first place! And thanks too to Fraser Cameron whose reportage style images illustrate this story.

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